Matthew McCraw

Thank you to everyone who has supported us so far through our adoption journey.  Many of you have given sacrificially and prayed faithfully.  We are so thankful for that.  As most of you know, we had a birth mother lined up to give us her baby for adoption.  Unfortunately, the mother changed her mind shortly before the baby was born.  There are a lot of reasons why it didn’t work out, but the main reason is that she did not want to give up her baby.  We are thankful for everyone who prayed for us and offered words of encouragement during this time.  We know that God is faithful and has great plans for us.  Naturally, some of you may have questions related to this.

What are you going to do now?  In short, we don’t know.  We still have a tender heart for adoption and children.  We have taken a few weeks to try and step back and relax.  We are hopeful that God has more children in our future.  At this point we are still planning to pursue adoption, and we are open to having more biological children.  We know that whatever we do, we will need to continue to fundraise and pray.

Are you mad at the birth mother?  I can say that we went through a full range of emotions as these events unfolded.  We have prayed for this birth mother and her baby daughter.  We know that ideally, every child would have a happy life with his or her biological parents.  We are praying this little girl has that happy life.  Being mad at anyone does not help our hearts, or our desire to have another child.

How is Jeremiah handling it?  He knows that his baby sister will not be here when we expected.  He still prays faithfully (and rather forcefully sometimes) for God to give him a baby sister and a baby brother.

What can we do for you?  Please pray for us.  Pray for God to give us wisdom.  Pray for God to provide the resources we need to move forward, as He provides direction.  Pray for us to be at peace at all times.

Thank you again to everyone who has shown love to us recently.  We are so thankful to our family, friends, church, and our attorney, who have all helped us immensely.

God is faithful.

Many of you have been faithfully praying for and generously giving to our adoption journey.  We wanted to give you an update on what God is doing in our family.  We have established a relationship with a birth mother in our area.  Our relationship has been wonderful and we consider her a friend.  She is due in September and we are waiting and praying eagerly for a healthy baby girl.  We are completely overjoyed at the possibility of having a little girl very soon.  We know many of you have questions about this so I posted some with answers below.  Please feel free to contact us with any other specific questions.  We covet your continued prayers.

Did you find this mother through the law firm you were working with?  No.  This mother sort of found us.  God works in awesome ways.

Are you still fundraising?  Absolutely.  There are still costs that come along with this adoption.  We are still actively raising funds.  If any funds are leftover, we will save them for a future adoption or use them for an adoption ministry.

Are you aware that a mother can change her mind after she gives birth?  How will you handle that?  Yes, we are aware of that.  As I mentioned, we have met with this birth mother numerous times.  We are as confident as we can be that she wants us to adopt her baby.  If something happens that prevents this adoption, it will certainly be difficult.  However, this is a journey we are willing to travel.  We trust this mother and more importantly, we trust God’s providence.

Have you taken legal steps to help with the adoption?  We have indeed.  We are in constant contact with an attorney in town.  He has been very helpful.  We are now waiting.  Not a lot can be done until thirty days before the baby is due.  At that point, we can do some preliminary paper work and then we must wait until seventy-two hours after the baby is born to sign the main legal documents.

What does Jeremiah think about all of this?  Although he doesn’t understand it all, he is super excited.  He wants one sister and 100 brothers.  Hopefully we can get the one sister for him soon

I recently blogged about my reaction to my attendance of the John 3:16 conference. Soon after I posted my blog, Dr. David Allen reached out to me. We first spoke via email and then over the phone. Dr. Allen was very gracious, humble, and kind in all the personal conversations we shared. On the issue of Limited Atonement we agreed to disagree. The bottom line is that we have different views as to the application of the atonement. John Piper’s new book does a great job explaining the Reformed tradition. You can get it here.

I told Dr. Allen that my main concern was with the spirit of the event, the unfounded attacks against Reformed Baptists, and the unhelpful comments shared by Dr. Patterson at the end. He pointed out that Baptists on the Reformed side also hurl unfair insults, which is absolutely true. We both agreed that the name calling and cheap shots must stop. Dr. Allen said he could not speak to Dr. Patterson’s comments as he had not reviewed the audio from the event and he could not speak on behalf of Dr. Patterson. That is fair and understandable.

I was encouraged by our conversation and hopeful that we can change the atmosphere of witch-hunting and mudslinging that has taken place in our area of Kentucky and in many other places throughout the United States. Let each of us commit to biblical fidelity, fair discussion, and brotherly love and charity.

“Everyone should have the chance to love whomever they wish.”  “Why are you so bigoted towards gay people?”  “Who are you to tell women what they must do with their bodies?”  These are resounding cries heard from those who are steadfast in their assertion that conservative Christians are hateful bigots. 

The Cultural Conundrum

It has become evident in recent years, that no matter how we behave as Christians, when we stand on the truth of God’s Word, many in society will see us as bigoted or hateful.  The cultural jury has already made up their minds regarding Christians.  If we don’t want our children exposed to worldliness through media or the school system we are haters of free speech and differing opinions.  If we declare that the biblical view of marriage is the only true form of marriage we are narrow-minded murderers of true love (nod to Dan in Real Life).  If we attempt to protect the unborn we are spewing hyper-patriarchy filled venom towards women.

Despite the fact that we may never in fact shown hatred towards a single person, we are nonetheless considered hateful bigots.  This conundrum should cause us to reflect upon our stance towards these social issues.  A recent article from the CNN Belief blog reveals that many Christians still hold to traditional biblical views of hot-button issues like marriage and abortion, yet they are afraid to speak out publicly about their beliefs for fear of being labeled as narrow-minded or hateful.  Others, who formerly held to traditional Christian beliefs, have simply jumped ship, straying from orthodoxy.  Still yet, there are those who seem to wear the term bigot as a badge of honor, as demonstrated in their continual public protests against anything and everything.  The question naturally arises, “Should we be concerned with declaring the truth, or with showing people love?”  Many Christians seem to think that we must choose one or the other.

The Necessity of Love and Truth

As so often happens in conservative Christian circles, people seem to feel they have to pick one extreme or the other.  If one feels that he has been too hateful in his speech towards those with whom he disagrees, he will swing the pendulum completely to the other side and stop declaring any truth that may be perceived as offensive.  The same could be said of those who feel like they love too much.  I believe what God calls us to is not all truth and no love, or all love and no truth, but rather truth and love.  This truth and love is not like an Arnold Palmer drink (half tea and half lemonade), it is one hundred percent love and one hundred percent truth.

We see a picture of this type of love in the first letter to the Thessalonians.  Paul, Silas, and Timothy were missionaries to the city of Thessalonica.  After many were converted, a church was planted in the city.  Paul, Silas, and Timothy continued to visit the infant church and encourage them in their walk.  The background of those in that city was completely pagan.  They had no Christian heritage.  The ways of God were foreign to them.  Yet, Paul and the other missionaries spoke the truth to them in a loving manner.  They did not water down the gospel message at all; they declared the gospel with an aim “…not to please man, but to please God who tests our hearts.” (1 Thessalonians 2:4).  Neither did they “seek glory from people” (1 Thessalonians 2:6).  Yet, they were also completely loving to the Thessalonians, treating them “…gentle…like a nursing mother taking care of her own children.” (1 Thessalonians 2:7).

The call to preach the gospel faithfully and accurately is repeated throughout the pages of Scripture (2 Timothy 4:2-5; 2 Timothy 3:16-17; Romans 1:16).  We cannot waver on truth.  The gospel is unchanging, no matter how much the culture changes.  We must be stalwart in our stance on the unchanging truth of God.  Simultaneously, we must also share the truth with an inundating love that comes only from genuine followers of God.  Jesus said the world would know His followers by the way that they loved one another (John 13:35).  The way in which we are to worship God is guided by love (Mark 12:30).  The second greatest commandment is to love our fellow image bearers (Mark 12:31).  Paul tells us that the greatest Christian virtue is love (1 Corinthians 13:13).  The Bible has much to say about love, which cannot be ignored.  The faithful Christian must have a full dose of both truth and love.

One Mind at a Time

We Christians have so often been known for what we are against rather than what we celebrate.  We cannot help but be known as hateful bigots when the only time we open our mouths is to say, “You’re going to hell!” or “God hates gays!” or “Baby Killer!”  Dr. Russell Moore points out how we have erred over the last several decades.  While we want to stand on truth, we must not look at our culture and proverbially say, “you kid’s get off my lawn.”

At the moment someone finds out an individual is a biblical Christian, they often assume that person is a hateful bigot.  Sometimes that assumption is justified; many times it is not.  The task of changing the mind of the culture at large is probably unattainable.  The natural effect of the Fall is for the culture to reject the ways of God.  However, I believe if the perception of Christians being hateful bigots is to be changed, it will take place one relationship at a time.  Perhaps when a Christian reaches out to that homosexual who has been rejected by his family, that homosexual will realize while the Christian disagrees with him, he still loves him.  Maybe when the free-spirited nineteen year old college woman experiences the grace-filled compassion of a Christian classmate, she will realize that classmate may be against abortion, but she is not against loving every person no matter their beliefs.  We may not be able to control being labeled a bigot, but we can control whether or not we show love.

Last night I attended the John 3:16 conference at Macedonia Baptist Church in Owensboro, Kentucky.  The subtitle for the conference was “It is Still, Whosoever Will.”  A description of the conference said, “This is a night of encouragement and worship celebrating our traditional belief concerning salvation.”  The speakers were Dr. David Allen and Dr. Paige Patterson, both of Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary.

I was interested in the conference for two main reasons.  First, there has been anti-Calvinistic rhetoric and efforts spreading in our area of Kentucky.  I wanted to see how far this conference would go with that.  Additionally, I legitimately wanted to hear what Dr. Allen and Dr. Patterson had to say.  There are some aspects of Reformed theology that I think are absolutely irrefutable if you are a serious student of the Bible.  I wanted to see how Dr. Allen and Dr. Patterson would respond to these truths.

Dr. Allen focused primarily on the most debated aspect of Calvinism, which is Limited Atonement.  He distinguished between the intent of the atonement, the extent of the atonement, and the application of the atonement.  He said the biblical view of the atonement is “Universal Atonement” rather than Limited Atonement.  He used several passages (Acts 3:17-26; Luke 22:20-21; 1 Corinthians 15:1-3; Isaiah 53:6) to prove that when the gospel is shared it is shared to large groups of people, some of whom may not be the elect.  He then stated briefly (without any logical explanation) that Universal Atonement and Universalism are not the same thing.  Finally, he stated negative implications of Limited Atonement, such as the inability to give the genuine offer of the gospel to everyone.

Let me start by saying that I appreciate Dr. Allen’s passion and attempt to proclaim the full counsel of God.  With that said, I was thoroughly disappointed in his presentation (although he did receive a chorus of amens during his time at the pulpit).  First of all, he strongly misrepresented Reformed Baptists.  I do not know any who hold to the doctrines of grace that are unable to tell anyone that God offers them salvation in Jesus Christ, through repentance of sins.  This is simply false.  Additionally, his logical conclusions regarding Limited Atonement are flawed.  To say that we cannot preach the gospel to anyone because they might not be the elect is not only inconsistent with Reformed theology, it is unbiblical.

Perhaps the biggest shortcoming of Dr. Allen’s lesson was his inability to distinguish between Universal Atonement and Universalism.  Scripture consistently speaks of atonement as payment for sins.  No one disputes that.  If everyone’s sins in the whole world are paid for by the powerful blood of Jesus, then everyone must be saved.  I don’t see another option, unless something other than the blood of Jesus pays for our sins.  Dr. Allen did say that the atonement is not applied until someone repents, but he presented no logical explanation for how this all works out.  Universalism states that in the end, everyone will be saved.  Universal Atonement says that Jesus’ blood paid for everyone’s sin.  What is the difference?

There are MANY other issues with what Dr. Allen said, but it would take much more than a blog post to cover it all.

Dr. Patterson’s time was spent primarily on election.  He began by stating that man was free to reject God or receive salvation.  He said man is responsible and God is sovereign.  He went on to speak briefly about foreknowledge (I never understood what he was trying to say on that subject).  He then provided a short explanation of Romans 8:28-30, followed with a defense of the biblical view of election.  Finally, he concluded with reasons why election is in the Bible.

I agreed so much with Dr. Patterson that I whispered to my neighbor that it sounded like he was defending the Reformed position.  Dr. Patterson showed without a doubt that there is much that Calvinists and non-Calvinists can agree upon.  His message reminded me why I admire his stance on biblical truth.

Unfortunately, my joy in Dr. Patterson’s words was wiped away quickly in his final two minutes.  For some unknown reason, he finished with several arrows thrown at Reformed Baptists.  Below are some of his quotes:

“The kind of job we (non-Calvinists) are doing witnessing, we might as well be Calvinists.”

“It’s easier to be a Calvinist (because you don’t have to witness).”

“If I were a Calvinist, I would not witness.”

“I’m not saying they don’t witness, but I’ve got a suspicion.”

These statements (or implications) are not only untrue, they are unkind and unnecessary.

He also said that Calvin was not missional, and you would search in vain to find any evidence that he was.  However, a simple ten second Google search proved that wrong.  See links below:

http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/2012/11/27/john-calvin-missionary-and-church-planter/

http://www.founders.org/journal/fj33/article2.html

http://www.andrewfullercenter.org/files/john-calvin-on-missions-article.pdf

All in all, I am glad I went.  I do wish that the conference organizers (who were the DOMs from the Western Kentucky area) would have allowed someone from the Reformed side to represent the opposing view.  At the minimum, someone could have corrected the misrepresentations and false information provided by Dr. Allen and Dr. Patterson.  However, with that said, I realize the point was not to allow an open discussion, but to encourage those who are already anti-Calvinists.  I hope one day, we can sit together and celebrate what we have in common and openly discuss what we disagree upon without throwing darts at each other.  This has already taken place on  the national level and on many state levels.  I pray that God will allow the churches in our area to follow the lead set by our national leaders.  Let us all seek to be faithful students of the word and faithful missionaries in our communities and all around the world.  Soli Deo Gloria.

The Sunday Gathering is an Atheistic church that meets in Britain, said to be the first in Britain.  A BBC report about the the so-called church can be found here.  After watching the video and reading the article concerning the Sunday Gathering I could not help but think that this whole thing is completely absurd.  It is ignorant to call this gathering a church, and it is laughable how much a group of supposed atheists try to mimic the services of a God-worshiping church.

Not only are the elements copies of the elements of a Christian worship service (although they are comical and sacrilegious), but the reasoning behind many people attending the service are also strikingly similar to Christianity.  The master of ceremonies, Sanderson Jones, claims the service is a “…celebration of life.”  The theme of the service focuses on wonder.  Jones speaks of how his mother’s death reminded him that life is all too brief.  One attendee said, “it’s nice to get together and have a bit of a community spirit…”  Another said, “I think people need that sense of connectedness…”    Still another predicts of the future of the atheistic church, “There will be a structure, an ethical outlook on life.”  In the video, Jones even spends a moment speaking about the great odds that were required to create life.

To the Christian this is absolutely ridiculous.  Those who reject God are trying to replicate and absorb that which comes only from God, while at the same time acting on truths which point to the existence of God.

Humans do have a need for community.  Life is worth celebrating.  The beginning of life and this planet is a miraculous event.  Worshippers of the one true God have known this for thousands of years.

These people are seeking something because they know inside their hearts that there is something different about them, indeed something special.  They are created in the image of God.  They are created to be worshippers of God.  Although many have rejected God, they cannot help but feel that pull towards something divine, something significant.

There is a reason you don’t see squirrels assembling together and singing songs while taking a moment of silence.  I haven’t noticed any cows discussing where they originated, or what makes the grass grow.  Humans yearn for a connectedness with something more significant than themselves, because they were created with that yearning.

If there is no God, I am certainly not wasting my time by gracing the walls of a church with my presence.  If there is no God, I’m going to do as much for myself, as fast as I can, to get as much pleasure as I can get.  Ethics, morality, significance, beauty, humor, art, love, and the like are all out the door if there is no God.

Praise God that He is there, and that He loves us.  He desires a relationship with His creation.  He has made it possible for all of us to find the significance and meaning that we search for.  The way is Jesus.